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Is there a label for someone that experiences a certain form of attraction (aesthetic in this case) but feels repulsed by it?

I don't mind if other people experience aesthetic attraction towards me, however, I really don't like experiencing it myself? I'm an-aesthetic spectrum so I don't experience it a whole lot, but on the occasions I do I feel repulsed by it, I guess? It feels 'wrong' to experience and I'm quick to deny (to myself) that I ever experienced it. this doesn't apply to fictional characters + only applies to real people.

If there isn't a label like this for aesthetic attraction specifically, but there are ones for sexual, romantic, or any other form of attraction, feel free to give me those labels because I could just 'change' them to fit aesthetic attraction instead (:

Recently I realized that I'm Aromantic. I don't experience romantic attraction whatsoever.

However, I /used to/ experience it back when I was a kid/pre-teen. I believe I used to be alloromantic, but, one day I just kinda stopped being capable of experiencing romantic attraction and it just never 'went back'?

I don't consider myself Aroflux/don't wanna label myself as such because it doesn't really feel like anything fluctuated? It just kinda happened and now it's been 6-7 years since I last experienced romantic attraction, and honestly, I don't think I ever will again, especially considering I've been in multiple relationships since then and have only ever been able to feel queerplatonic and/or alterous attraction. I'm just Aromantic now and that's that!!

I was wondering if there's a label for this? For someone that used to be allo/used to experience romantic attraction but is now aromantic/no longer experiences it what-so-ever + doesn't think they'll ever experience it again?

So!! For context I identify as bi, I'm attracted to /all/ genders.

However!! I was curious as to whether there's a label for people that are attracted to men but refrain from dating them despite being attracted to them due to comfort reasons and/or trauma?

I'm most often attracted to men + nonbinary people from what I've experienced, but despite /who/ I find myself most often attracted to, I heavily prefer dating nonbinary people, fem-aligned people and women for comfort reasons. I've reached a point where even if I'm attracted to a man or masculine-aligned person I wouldn't date them for my own comfort.

If there isn't a label I might just use 'bi with a preference' or bi and sapphic together (or something else), but, it'd be cool if there was a label for this specific experience? I believe I saw something a while back (months - years ago), but I can't remember the label name or if this label actually exists and I'm just remembering wrong.

I apologize if I explain this poorly, but, a bit ago (a few weeks-months?) I found a handful of labels that were multi-attraction, but, they specified what genders were most attracted to and in what 'order' I guess? Like what genders you were attracted to 'first most', 'second most' and then the least?

For example, one of them was like, you experienced attraction to men(lm) most, nonbinary people(lnb) second and then women(lw) the least?

There was a bunch of these + a bunch of combinations too, like

- most(?) attracted to woman(lw), second nonbinary(lnb), the men(lm) the least

- nonbinary(lnb) first, men(lm) second and then women(lw) last

Etc etc,

Anyways, point is, I need help finding these label(s), even if just one of them? I've been looking for a few days but can't find them or remember their names for the life of me.

I'm sure if someone finds even one label like this I could probably track down the rest from there