Sexuality Wiki

This wiki is in the process of being revamped and most articles are subject to change.

READ MORE

Sexuality Wiki
Sexuality Wiki
Orientation Wiki
881
pages
in: Sexual Orientation, Asexual Spectrum, Orientation, Gray-

Graysexual

Sign in to edit

Graysexual is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum, defined as the "gray area" between asexuality and allosexuality.[2][3][4][5][6] There are many ways to be graysexual, which include, but are not limited to:

  1. Strongly identifying with asexuality but occasionally experiencing sexual attraction.[5]
  2. Experiencing sexual attraction, but only rarely. [5][6]
  3. Experiencing sexual attraction, but having a low sex drive.[4][5]
  4. Enjoying sexual relationships, but only under specific circumstances.[5][6]
  5. Experiencing sexual attraction, but very weakly,[6] or experiencing sexual attraction that is not strong enough to be acted upon.[3]
  6. Changing between experiencing sexual attraction, and not experiencing it over a long period of time.[6]
  7. Experiencing attraction that may or may not be sexual, or being unsure if one's attraction is sexual or not.[6][2]
  8. Having had sexual experiences in the past, but those experiences were fleeting and not reflective of one's current sense of self.[3]
  9. Experiencing sexual attraction, but not another important component of sexuality, such as sex drive.[6]

In summary, graysexual individuals experience some semblance of sexuality, but significantly less than allosexual individuals.[3]

Common Definitions[]

“ Alright, so don't know if this term is already around, but if not, I'm coining it now.

Gray-A

Is there really a line at which point you are asexual?

According to our logo there isn't. Just fuzziness.

So, this thread I dedicate to our fuzzy members who may sometimes feel unsure of their asexuality/sexuality.

”

–KSpaz, 2006[2]

“ This term is used by individuals who may identify strongly with asexuality but may sometimes experience sexual desire and/or attraction and/or drive for a variety of reasons. Many see it as the grey area between asexual and sexual; however, this term is often included within the asexual spectrum. ”

–The Trans Language Primer[4]

“ Grey-asexuality and greyromanticism describes anyone who falls in some area between being asexual and sexual, or aromantic and romantic. This identity is especially idiosyncratic, as the experiences of grey-asexual/greyromantics can vary wildly. People who identify with either of these labels can include (but are in no way limited to), people who do not normally experience attraction but do sometimes, people who experience attraction but have a low sex drive, and people who can enjoy and desire sex or romantic relationships but under very limited and specific circumstances. The identities to follow can all fit underneath the grey-asexual or greyromantic labels if the person identifying with it chooses to. ”

–Morgan Pasquier, 2018[5]

“ But in fact there are many ways to be gray-A, and they don’t fall on a straight line. A gray-A can:

Experience sexual attraction only infrequently. Flip back and forth between experiencing sexual attraction and not, over a period of months. Experience sexual attraction very weakly. Experience attraction that may or may not be called sexual, since it shares some characteristics with sexual attraction, but not others. Experience sexual attraction only in specific and narrow circumstances. Be uncertain about whether they experience sexual attraction. Experience sexual attraction, but be missing some other important component, like sex drive.

”

–Siggy on The Asexual Agenda, 2012[6]

Flags[]

The first graysexual flag was created on June 21, 2013, by Milith Rusinuolo.[1] Two alternate flags were created by unknown users, one on or before August 22, 2015,[7] and one on or before August 30, 2015.[8] Another anonymous user created a flag on or before July 9, 2016, via the Pride-Flags Deviantart.[9] Another alternate flag was created by an unknown person in or before December 2020.[10][11]

In 2021, Reddit user droppedyourcutlery created two more flags,[12] and Reddit user TheOhioEmpire created one flag.[13] Another alternate flag was created by Reddit user AKidIGuess on or before April 13, 2021.[14] Adeltae on Reddit created a flag on April 19, 2021.[15] LGBTA wiki user Nyoomster created another flag on June 27, 2021.[16]

Reddit user R0N1333 created another alternate flag in 2022,[17] and X (Twitter) user lunarhorrors created a flag on June 10, 2023.[18] Another alternate flag was created on August 28, 2023 by Fandom user PixelSoda6.[19] On February 20, 2024, Tumblr user bloomshrooms created an alternate flag,[20] and Tumblr user the-cactus-taco created five more flags on June 4, 2024.[21] Reddit user Pikacon999 created another flag in August 2024.[22]

Symbol[]

The graysexual symbol was created on or before November 5, 2024. The creator is unknown.[10]

References[]

  1. ↑ 1.0 1.1 1.2 https://web.archive.org/web/20180210192310/https://avia-viridis.neocities.org/flags.html
  2. ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/15539-gray-as/ (Archived)
  3. ↑ 3.0 3.1 3.2 3.3 https://www.asexuality.org/?q=grayarea (Archived)
  4. ↑ 4.0 4.1 4.2 https://translanguageprimer.com/grey-asexual/ (Archived)
  5. ↑ 5.0 5.1 5.2 5.3 5.4 5.5 https://web.archive.org/web/20200801045947/https://www.glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-finding-your-community
  6. ↑ 6.0 6.1 6.2 6.3 6.4 6.5 6.6 6.7 https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/many-ways-to-be-between/ (Archived)
  7. ↑ 7.0 7.1 https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Gray-Asexual-1-555350975 (Archived)
  8. ↑ 8.0 8.1 https://archive.ph/SncaU (Original)
  9. ↑ 9.0 9.1 https://archive.ph/4FHEa (Archived)
  10. ↑ 10.0 10.1 10.2 10.3 https://taimi.com/wiki/greysexual (Archived)
  11. ↑ 11.0 11.1 https://archive.ph/v8m3j (Original Post)
  12. ↑ 12.0 12.1 12.2 https://www.reddit.com/r/QueerVexillology/comments/o7mrlm/grayace_flag_redesigns_babeyy/ (Archived)
  13. ↑ 13.0 13.1 https://www.reddit.com/r/vexillology/comments/o0c7ze/pride_flag_redesigns_pt_3/ (Archived)
  14. ↑ 14.0 14.1 https://archive.ph/X13Ed (Original)
  15. ↑ 15.0 15.1 https://archive.is/P53nW (Original)
  16. ↑ 16.0 16.1 https://mogai.miraheze.org/wiki/Greysexual (Archived)
  17. ↑ 17.0 17.1 https://archive.ph/f1UTp (Original Post)
  18. ↑ 18.0 18.1 https://archive.ph/zGePR (Archived)
  19. ↑ 19.0 19.1 https://archive.ph/2024.10.26-184757/https://asexuals.fandom.com/wiki/Graysexual?oldid=9093
  20. ↑ 20.0 20.1 https://archive.ph/QwCV6 (Original Post)
  21. ↑ 21.0 21.1 21.2 21.3 21.4 21.5 https://www.tumblr.com/the-cactus-taco/752389969922949120/ok-fun-fact-i-got-the-idea-for-the-poly-flag?source=share (Archived)
  22. ↑ 22.0 22.1 https://www.reddit.com/r/QueerVexillology/comments/1etq437/i_redesigned_the_grayromantic_and_graysexual_flags/ (Original Post)

See Also[]

Community content is available under CC-BY-SA unless otherwise noted.